Monday, November 3, 2008

Love ?

It's so strange that this small little emotion has the capability of making and breaking us at the same time.I am not any expert to comment about this unfathomable feeling but whatever i have penned down here, is completely based on my experiences.

When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form flowers and romantic moments become boring after a while and they only tend to appear on the surface of the relationship.

Under all this, the pillar of true love stands and that's our life. Love, not words, win arguments.Sometimes we expect far too much from the people around us and because no one can ever live up to those expectations, we are almost always disappointed.Wouldn't it be better if we just let go, and let people be who they are?

Then we'd be able to see them as they are -- with all their beauty and goodness in which we take joy and with all their faults which we can also see in ourselves.When we have put someone up on a pedestal, sculpturing them to fit our needs and desires by smoothing out the rough edges and creating new curves here and there, we cannot see the real person underneath our work.

All we see is the illusion we have created. That is denying the person's real identity and is disrespectful.It's much better for our friends and for ourselves if we drop our expectations and illusions and accept them just the way they are.Whether we realize it or not, everyone we know is very special to us. The most important thing to remember is... Always appreciate the friends that you have. A fight may come and go very easily but a friendship could last forever. The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards. They are the ones who care.

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it?

It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...

You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore.

Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love!!!!! (untill i get one)


Mom of Four said...

When you love someone, save some for yourself too. Always reserve a space in your heart for pain. They always say, Love to the fullest, only then you can truly say that you have loved. I don't believe in that. Well, we all have our own way of loving, and that makes us unique.
You cannot say you're lucky in love unless you were out of luck in the past. You cannot be happy now, unless you were crying prior to that.. That's life...
Take care...

... said...

life without love is not life - happily ever after movie

Zee bo Bee said...

It's easy to think, that love is all good, and it's easy to think that love is all bad.

Because love is all this, and love is all that. Love can be as real as the very air we breath, incorporeal but existing, or love can be like a ghost, something we know of, but are not entirely sure of. On the other hand love could be nothing.

There are times, when I long for nothing more than to be loved. But there too are times when, I wished I had never known love at all.

It's just that complicated. It's just that simple.